Pitching with a purpose: revenge

To understand why we feel pulled to revenge, it helps to understand the role payback played in primitive, barbaric societies. For instance: Major League…

Jul 15 • Danny O'Neil

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Depth-finder: What makes a grudge stick

A joke may have sparked Eddie Murphy's 15-year grudge against "Saturday Night Live," but there was much more to it than that.

Jul 9 • Danny O'Neil

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Video: Catharsis isn't all it's cracked up to be

Acting on anger doesn't make you less angry. It makes you more likely to continue acting in anger.

Jul 1 • Danny O'Neil

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June 2026

Catharsis is a load of crap

Venting your repressed anger doesn't actually eliminate it. In fact, venting your repressed anger makes you more likely to keeping acting on that…

Jun 30 • Danny O'Neil

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His own worst enemy

No one held a grudge quite like George Steinbrenner. This fact ultimately wound up getting the Yankees owner banned from baseball.

Jun 25 • Danny O'Neil

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May 2026

A grown-up's guide to getting over hurt feelings

I tend to cling to every perceived slight or implied disrespect. I came across an interview this week that showed the benefits I could get by using…

May 21 • Danny O'Neil

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How speaking up saved a pivotal friendship

Jeremy Lin harbored some resentment toward the coach who'd helped him early in his career. So he acted like an adult, used his words and saved a…

May 21 • Danny O'Neil

April 2026

🔤 The problem with spelling out your grudges

Two stories show the danger of writing your resentments down, and in one case, publishing them for the world to see

Apr 10 • Danny O'Neil

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🖊️ The fleeting satisfaction of the poisoned pen

I spent years imagining what it would feel spell out my stepfather's shortcomings for the world. I can see now it wouldn't have had the long-term effect…

Apr 10 • Danny O'Neil

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March 2026

Someone's got a grudge ... against me?!?!

The shoe is on the other foot this week as I figure out what to do about after a former co-worker addressed me in a fairly pointed video.

Mar 4 • Danny O'Neil

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January 2026

Birds of a feather grudge together

An experiment at my alma mater showed that crows have a sharp memory when it comes to people who've harmed them. In other words: I think I found my…

Jan 22 • Danny O'Neil

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😈 Grudges are not always a good thing

I used to see grudges as a sign of strength. A willingness to enforce boundaries. Now, I recognize they can be a trap that ties you to the past.

Jan 15 • Danny O'Neil

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