Birds of a feather grudge together

An experiment at my alma mater showed that crows have a sharp memory when it comes to people who've harmed them. In other words: I think I found my…

Jan 22 • Danny O'Neil

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😈 Grudges are not always a good thing

I used to see grudges as a sign of strength. A willingness to enforce boundaries. Now, I recognize they can be a trap that ties you to the past.

Jan 15 • Danny O'Neil

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November 2025

The first step to defusing a grudge

You've got to spell out why you're mad. This is a little tricky, though. The real reason you're mad is almost certainly about more than the basic facts…

Nov 12, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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September 2025

The Grudge Judge: Cardi B vs. Rah Ali

Was Cardi B justified in her seven-year grudge against Rah Ali and the airport confrontation it led to?

Sep 25, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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June 2025

Podcast debut!

Episode 1 is an origin story of sorts: The roots of my life-defining grudge, and how I feel now that I'm on the other side of it.

Jun 21, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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Revenge is like a drug?

That's what one researcher concludes, and while I found this supremely interesting, I am not at all sold on the way he presents forgiveness as the…

Jun 14, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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It's never really about you

I've always remembered the first time my stepfather visited my family's home. The meaning I've drawn from that memory, however, has changed dramatically…

Jun 12, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

Revenge is not a drug nor forgiveness a cure

I found myself nodding along to about half of a recent article in the Wall Street Journal. Then I came to the discussion of forgiveness, and I started…

Jun 12, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

Film Room: Man on Fire

Before he was "The Equalizer," Denzel Washington was John Creasy, who had a very specific and determined response to the kidnapping of a girl he had…

Jun 11, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

March 2025

The billion-dollar grudge

After seven years of litigation, investor Bill Ackman uttered a very heart-felt expletive into his phone only to have the guy on the other end of it…

Mar 20, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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The billion-dollar grudge

Bill Ackman was understandably fed up with Carl Icahn's resistance to honoring a contract the two signed. How Ackman expressed this frustration…

Mar 20, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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A grudge gives you focus

For 30 years I've seen athletes use resentment as a fuel for performance. It's effective, but it can also become a bit of a trap.

Mar 11, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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