🔤 The problem with spelling out your grudges

Two stories show the danger of writing your resentments down, and in one case, publishing them for the world to see

12 hrs ago • Danny O'Neil

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🖊️ The fleeting satisfaction of the poisoned pen

I spent years imagining what it would feel spell out my stepfather's shortcomings for the world. I can see now it wouldn't have had the long-term effect…

12 hrs ago • Danny O'Neil

March 2026

Someone's got a grudge ... against me?!?!

The shoe is on the other foot this week as I figure out what to do about after a former co-worker addressed me in a fairly pointed video.

Mar 4 • Danny O'Neil

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January 2026

Birds of a feather grudge together

An experiment at my alma mater showed that crows have a sharp memory when it comes to people who've harmed them. In other words: I think I found my…

Jan 22 • Danny O'Neil

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😈 Grudges are not always a good thing

I used to see grudges as a sign of strength. A willingness to enforce boundaries. Now, I recognize they can be a trap that ties you to the past.

Jan 15 • Danny O'Neil

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November 2025

The first step to defusing a grudge

You've got to spell out why you're mad. This is a little tricky, though. The real reason you're mad is almost certainly about more than the basic facts…

Nov 12, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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September 2025

The Grudge Judge: Cardi B vs. Rah Ali

Was Cardi B justified in her seven-year grudge against Rah Ali and the airport confrontation it led to?

Sep 25, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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June 2025

Podcast debut!

Episode 1 is an origin story of sorts: The roots of my life-defining grudge, and how I feel now that I'm on the other side of it.

Jun 21, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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Revenge is like a drug?

That's what one researcher concludes, and while I found this supremely interesting, I am not at all sold on the way he presents forgiveness as the…

Jun 14, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

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It's never really about you

I've always remembered the first time my stepfather visited my family's home. The meaning I've drawn from that memory, however, has changed dramatically…

Jun 12, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

Revenge is not a drug nor forgiveness a cure

I found myself nodding along to about half of a recent article in the Wall Street Journal. Then I came to the discussion of forgiveness, and I started…

Jun 12, 2025 • Danny O'Neil

Film Room: Man on Fire

Before he was "The Equalizer," Denzel Washington was John Creasy, who had a very specific and determined response to the kidnapping of a girl he had…

Jun 11, 2025 • Danny O'Neil