Guest Grudge: Don’t get even, get ahead

In our first guest essay, romance author Julie Shackman explains how she found an unflinching determination amid the pain of being bullied as a child.

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August 2026

Getting pulled in opposite directions

Revenge isn’t the only option when we suffer a grave loss. It can be an alluring one, though. Especially if there’s social pressure involved.

Aug 29 • Danny O'Neil

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A most unusual revenge flick

“Supergirl” sent a mixed message on the subject of payback, which might have been part of its problem at the box office.

Aug 21 • Danny O'Neil

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Asking does not mean ye shall receive

What we're owed, and what we can expect to receive are two decidedly different things. Especially when you're dealing with someone who's allergic to the…

Aug 12 • Danny O'Neil

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Got a grudge you're willing to share?

The Grudgery brokers in small-batch, artisinal resentments with a healthy dose of personal introspection. If that sounds like something you want to…

Aug 11 • Danny O'Neil

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July 2026

Pitching with a purpose: revenge

To understand why we feel pulled to revenge, it helps to understand the role payback played in primitive, barbaric societies. For instance: Major League…

Jul 15 • Danny O'Neil

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Depth-finder: What makes a grudge stick

A joke may have sparked Eddie Murphy's 15-year grudge against "Saturday Night Live," but there was much more to it than that.

Jul 9 • Danny O'Neil

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Video: Catharsis isn't all it's cracked up to be

Acting on anger doesn't make you less angry. It makes you more likely to continue acting in anger.

Jul 1 • Danny O'Neil

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June 2026

Catharsis is a load of crap

Venting your repressed anger doesn't actually eliminate it. In fact, venting your repressed anger makes you more likely to keeping acting on that…

Jun 30 • Danny O'Neil

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His own worst enemy

No one held a grudge quite like George Steinbrenner. This fact ultimately wound up getting the Yankees owner banned from baseball.

Jun 25 • Danny O'Neil

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May 2026

A grown-up's guide to getting over hurt feelings

I tend to cling to every perceived slight or implied disrespect. I came across an interview this week that showed the benefits I could get by using…

May 21 • Danny O'Neil

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How speaking up saved a pivotal friendship

Jeremy Lin harbored some resentment toward a former coach. So he acted like an adult, used his words and saved one of the most important relationships…

May 21 • Danny O'Neil