My life in Oregon. And my similar attitude. Although mine started with a medical diagnosis in Jr High that explained a lot, and I knew I couldn’t be a “ditch digger”.
Often irked me too as it did her. But tried to have that Reagan Teflon jacket.
May not have her “success” but made a living and been able to help family and friends over the years financially. More important than childish bully’s.
As someone who was born on the Eastern half of Oregon, I completely understand the tough outer shell.
I had a therapist (one of the five or so that I've seen) once explain to me the difference between pain and suffering:
Pain is the result of the harm we suffer as an inescapable part of this life. We all face challenges to at least some degree, suffer losses and make mistakes that cause us agony.
Pain is an unavoidable element of being human.
Suffering occurs when we experience more pain than is necessary, and often this comes from revisiting things that have hurt us. Ruminating or dwelling on our past pain.
We can't prevent ourselves from being hurt. It comes with being human. We can try to minimize our suffering, however. And that comes from celebrating our ability to survive the rough events tha we endure.
The way she described receiving the note from one of her former classmates, and the options she considered before deciding to simply acknowledge what she'd accomplished as an author was really breathtaking.
My life in Oregon. And my similar attitude. Although mine started with a medical diagnosis in Jr High that explained a lot, and I knew I couldn’t be a “ditch digger”.
Often irked me too as it did her. But tried to have that Reagan Teflon jacket.
May not have her “success” but made a living and been able to help family and friends over the years financially. More important than childish bully’s.
As someone who was born on the Eastern half of Oregon, I completely understand the tough outer shell.
I had a therapist (one of the five or so that I've seen) once explain to me the difference between pain and suffering:
Pain is the result of the harm we suffer as an inescapable part of this life. We all face challenges to at least some degree, suffer losses and make mistakes that cause us agony.
Pain is an unavoidable element of being human.
Suffering occurs when we experience more pain than is necessary, and often this comes from revisiting things that have hurt us. Ruminating or dwelling on our past pain.
We can't prevent ourselves from being hurt. It comes with being human. We can try to minimize our suffering, however. And that comes from celebrating our ability to survive the rough events tha we endure.
Thanks for reading!
Julie could even go as far as thanking the bullies for powering her success and dreams, but I appreciate she took the high road :)
If they don't already feel bad about their actions, they won't because you remind them.
The way she described receiving the note from one of her former classmates, and the options she considered before deciding to simply acknowledge what she'd accomplished as an author was really breathtaking.
I think THAT'S exactly what closure looks like.